What exactly is psychological abuse..?

It can also be called emotional or verbal abuse, or mobbing—something we’ve all encountered at least once in our lives. Some more, some less.

People who are masters of psychological abuse are called narcissists.

Believe it or not, psychological abuse is the worst form of abuse that exists.

Most people would at this point argue that physical or sexual abuse is far worse—but it isn’t.

At first, I thought the same thing.

Of course, I’m not saying these two forms of abuse aren’t serious—they absolutely are!

But in terms of the long-term effects on your mental health, emotional abuse is the most “deadly.” Any good psychotherapist will confirm this—look it up.

Another reason verbal abuse is the worst is that it is the least visible.

Bruises on the body are obvious to everyone, but emotional suffering sinks deep into our psyche.

It’s also important to mention that when someone experiences physical or sexual abuse, protection and help are immediately offered. With verbal abuse, however, people are often dismissed, mocked, or told, “Don’t be such a crybaby, it can’t be that bad!”

This is a complete disregard for someone’s feelings and is itself a form of abuse—but that’s a topic for another time.

As a result, the person feels even worse—they suffer and no one wants to help because their problems aren’t considered “legitimate.” This creates a sense of hopelessness, a feeling of being trapped, which can even lead to suicide.

Statistically, psychological abuse and suicides are increasing—especially among teenagers.

The biggest irony is that people experiencing the symptoms listed below often have no idea that they are caused by psychological abuse.

Of course, there can be other causes, such as life events like the death of loved ones or the consequences of war—but here I’m talking about problems that appear “for no reason” after several years.

It’s good to know that nothing happens without a reason.

If a child experiences this kind of abuse between ages 1 and 7 (when critical parts of the brain are not fully developed), it’s considered severe trauma that requires years of psychotherapeutic treatment.

I will talk more about this in the future.

Among the first and most classic consequences are:

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Panic attacks

Surprised..?

If you’ve struggled with these and have already seen a psychiatrist, they probably told you it’s a “chemical imbalance” in your brain and a “disease” you’ll have to learn to live with.

I will share my commentary on this kind of irresponsibility and lack of holistic care in future articles.

The symptoms I list here mostly apply to those who unconsciously experienced this abuse in childhood. Now, as adults, they experience symptoms that appear “out of nowhere,” with no visible reason. As I mentioned, nothing appears without a reason.

Most emotional problems are a direct result of childhood trauma—suppressed emotions that resurface years later.

Other common consequences include:

  • Low self-esteem and self-confidence

  • Inability to make decisions

  • Multiple personality disorder

  • Frequent dissociation

  • Various addictions

  • Frequent confusion

  • Distrust in oneself

  • Naivety—or the opposite extreme, distrust of others

  • Loss of identity

  • Not knowing what brings joy or what one wants to do in life

  • Harsh self-criticism

  • Perfectionism

  • Strong feelings of guilt and shame

  • Fear of what others think

  • Strong need for others’ approval

  • Fear of public exposure

  • Fear of intimacy

  • Self-isolation from the world

  • Fear of criticism and failure

  • Fear of expressing oneself

  • Inability to say no

  • Inability to set boundaries

  • Unexplained chronic health issues “without cause” (e.g., low-grade fever, sore throat, severe stomach pain, skin problems…)

  • Chronic fatigue

  • Difficulty forming relationships

  • In the long term, if these emotions are not resolved, they can lead to more serious illnesses such as cancer or diabetes.
  • …

The list of consequences is so long, I could go on for three days! Scary, isn’t it?

The good news is that all of this is absolutely curable. You do not need to remain dependent on pills or just “mask” the symptoms—or worse, learn to live with them.

Absolutely not!! And I can’t wait to prove this to you ☺

Once you understand how the mind works and its functions, everything becomes very simple.

That’s all for today—more insights coming soon! ☺